Consequences
of stress on children’s development
The stressor I chose is racism. Racism has had a very
profound effect on me and my husband and I believe this is why we are a great
match because we share the same ideals about racism and how to handle issues
that arise because of racism.
My husband grew up in the south in the 70’s with two
civil rights activist parents. Others in the area did not like that they were
fighting for equal rights. One day, they came home and when they opened up
their screen door, there was an explosion. My husband was not injured but his
older brother was thrown back and fell into the window air conditioning unit.
My husband spent his early years living in and going to inner city schools
where he would be maybe one of three white students or one in six at the most.
He had the hardest time understanding why he was not liked until he got older
and realized it was for the color of his skin and their mistrust of white
people. My husband even recounted a time while living in the south that he was
frowned upon from other white people because his skin was not as light as
theirs (my husband has Blackfoot Indian lineage).
I was born in East Africa. When I was younger, I also did
not understand racism. I slowly began to realize differences when I mentioned
where I was born. I would either hear really awful Ethiopian jokes or it was
assumed I was from South Africa. I went from being proud of where I was born to
not wanting to mention it. When I was nearing middle school age, we moved to
Hawaii. When I started school, I realized I was getting a lot of dirty looks
and being called “haole”. I soon learned that it meant white. Native Hawaiians
do not like white people. I also learned that they felt that way because they
did not want to become a state. When I reached middle school, I found near the
end of the school year that they have a special day a few days before summer
break that they called “kill haole day”. Basically, it was a day to beat up
white kids. Luckily, I had some very nice Samoan friends that reassured me that
they would not let anything happen to me.
I realize this is nothing compared to what other people
have endured over time. What it did for us was it gave us a different
perspective of how it would be if things were reversed. For instance, I know
that because of the political unrest in the region I was born, I cannot ever go
back. A few years ago, my husband and I read a travel warning for white people
whose passport states they were born in that region not to come in fear that I
and others like me would be arrested on the spot and killed. I am safe. For so
many others, they are not. It saddens both my husband and I that at this stage
in our lives we are seeing so much racism. The last few years have enraged and
shocked us. With so many other advancements, why is racism still a huge factor
in our country and around the world? Considering
this question, I decided to do some research to better understand the dilemma we
are facing here in the United States.
What I found is that racism and white supremacy is deeply
rooted in history. It goes as far back as the Enlightenment when people such as
Hume, Voltaire, and Kant wrote about African Americans as if they were less
than human and were depicted as not very smart (Bobo, 2017, p. S89). With
racism and white supremacy so deeply rooted in even today’s society, it is no
wonder that it is still as strong as it was hundreds of years ago. With our
current climate socially, economically, and politically, and with reading the
article, I realize that my suspicions are true and valid. What we are seeing
today is the ugly truth rearing its head with pride. It does not matter that
the majority of us have moved beyond the labeling and the misconceptions that
embody racism. It is the people in power that has given racism the fuel it
needs in an attempt to drive us further apart. We must stay vigilant so we can
all be the part of positive change that we want in the future.
Reference
Bobo,
Lawrence D. (2017). Racism in Trump’s America: reflections on culture,
sociology, and the 2016 US presidential election. The British Journal of Sociology (Volume 68, Issue S1).pp. S85-S104